When someone close to you dies it is natural to grieve over a period of weeks or months, going through the various feelings of denial, anger and sadness. Sometimes grief gets stuck because it hasn’t been allowed to process fully and a person may need help in releasing it. We have helped many people through the grieving process.
One consequence of bereavement can be that someone gets a bit fixated on their own mortality, realising that they too could die at any time. They may obsess about their health, worried they will develop the same cancer or heart condition as the parent who died. They are facing their own fear of death and it can be a paralysing fear. We regularly treat people for this with good results.
Fear of death can also be the outcome of other forms of trauma such as nearly dying in an accident, operation or in battle. You may experience this fear directly or it may be hidden under obsessive thoughts you have invented to distract from the underlying fear of death. For example, a woman who had survived a nasty road accident as a child developed a phobia of cars parked outside her house.
When people are free of the fear of death it is an extraordinary liberation, allowing people to live fuller and happier lives.
It is natural for children to be a bit nervous of the dark. They can’t see what is there and can imagine monsters and all sorts. They need to learn to process their fears and move on. If they do get stuck with a distressing fear, we can help. They only have to mention the monsters under the bed or how it feels when mummy turns the light out for us to be able to feel the energy of the fear that they feel. We gently guide them through it and help them process the fear until it has completely cleared. No more monsters under the bed!
For example, one mother brought her four-year-old along as he was too frightened to go to bed on his own and was having nightmares. After two sessions she reported that he now goes to bed on his own without any fuss or fear and the nightmares have stopped.
Adults with fear of the dark or fear of going to sleep can also be helped.
When you understand how stress and trauma are stored in the body, and how it is released, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can become a thing of the past – in moments. Until that time everything you do will make slow progress. Indeed, you may not make any progress at all.
If you talk about the problem, take medication or try CBT without understanding how stress and trauma are stored any work done on them will be a bit like fiddling while Rome burns.
Stress and trauma are stored in the body not in the mind or thought processes. We know this because we have removed it, using our technique, from hundreds of people. We have used our technique on ourselves and many others.
The Boulderstone Technique removes PTSD by getting the patient to feel a small bit of their trauma (not to talk about it but actually feel it) and we grab that bit before it squirms away. By holding this small bit of trauma, which is not overwhelming to the patient, we can get it processed and transform it into peace.
By grabbing just a small piece of the trauma makes it so much easier to transform. ALL major traumas can be broken down into smaller pieces as long as you don’t talk about them or give them labels. Holding the small trauma and allowing it to express itself is enough to let it disperse and that is what our technique is all about.
The process is repeated over and over until all the trauma has gone. Usually, this takes less than fifteen minutes regardless of the original severity.
One day all trauma will be dispersed this way because it is quick, efficient and easy.
I see several patients every week with IBS. Those who have seen their GP are generally sent to hospital to see an expensive consultant and get expensive tests: endoscopies, colonoscopies and so on, to rule out any pathology. In the majority of cases nothing is found to be wrong.
There is much talk in the media about NHS overspending. One area where the amount spent could be reduced drastically is that of gut problems, especially IBS.
IBS is a diagnosis given to people with any of the following symptoms: bloating, abdominal pain, loose stools, diarrhoea and/or constipation. This is because most cases of IBS are caused by food.
Doctors have been known to laugh at this suggestion, or at best they suggest the patient keeps a food diary. However, it is hard to see a direct relationship between symptoms and foods that are being consumed daily, such as cow’s milk and wheat. Cow’s milk protein is by far the most common cause of IBS, with wheat coming second, especially when constipation is a feature.
It makes common sense that the food we eat might directly affect the gut. People often know that they feel bloated and sleepy after eating wheat or that they get an attack of diarrhoea after eating cream.
Surely it would make sense, and save the NHS money, to carry out a simple and cheap test to see if food is causing a person’s IBS? If they stop eating that food and the symptoms disappear (which they usually do within a few days) then there would be no need to go on to do expensive tests, leaving those for people who really need them.
If you want to check if dairy or wheat are causing you a problem it does not hurt to cut them out of your diet for a week or two and see if there is an improvement. You do have to avoid them completely though, reading all the ingredients on things to make sure it is not creeping into your diet anywhere.
Various allergy and food intolerance tests are available at your own expense. I would not advise blood tests that only look for gluten allergy or lactose intolerance as they tend to miss the far more common problems with wheat and cow’s milk protein.
It is possible to remove depression, anxiety and stress without changing any external circumstances?
When you ask a person experiencing depression how they know they are depressed they often say they have symptoms such as feelings of hopelessness, or loss of interest in life, or anger, or loss of energy, or any of the hundreds of other symptoms. But those symptoms are the RESULTS of the depression something is there before those symptoms manifest.
Knowing what tells you that you are depressed requires insight because working it out requires you to go behind the results of depression and see how you recognise the depressed state. Not everyone can do it but people who can say they can actually feel their depression in their chest, or in their head, or in their stomach as a PHYSICAL sensation or tension.
Here at the Boulderstone Technique we have labelled this physical sensation as Micro-Physical Tension or MPT for short. We have also discovered that if the MPT is removed so is the sense of being depressed.
We have found a way to remove the MPT through a physical exercise – unique to each person – that we can teach to people so they have a way of sorting out their own depression, without resorting to pills.
Even if you can’t feel your own MPT, we are trained to and so your situation is rarely an obstacle to recovery. Because you don’t have to talk about the problem, long standing issues are not an obstacle, even if you can not remember the events but know there was a problem.
Removing MPT’s totally changes the way you feel. You do not need to change any external circumstances to feel better.
If you have problems with DEPRESSION, ANXIETY and STRESS the Boulderstone Technique may be an answer for you.