Understanding Stress

Psychological stress

When an elastic band is pulled in two different directions at the same time the band gets stretched and stressed. The same is true for human beings; when we are pulled in different directions by outer demands we can get stressed.

Causes of stress

As well as demands coming from outside, we are constantly dealing with a certain amount of inner conflict. This is actually the main cause of the stress we feel. When pressure is put on us it is this inner conflict that causes us to be pulled in different directions. We have phrases for the pull, like ‘being in two minds’ or ‘my heart says one thing but my head says another’. Whenever we can’t make up our minds over any issue the cause is an inner conflict. All conflicts create some level of stress. Most of them will get resolved fairly quickly as the dislike of living with conflict generates the energy to resolve it. However, some inner conflicts are not so easy to remove by ourselves.

Consequences of stress

Stress is the cause of many illnesses. At the very least it causes us to do things that are unhealthy, which can lead on to other illnesses. Drugs, both prescribed and recreational, are used to distract us from our stresses and inner conflict. There is no drug in the world that will remove stress completely and permanently, but that won’t stop people from trying to find it. The desire for drugs comes in large part from the difficulties of stress. Take away the stress and there is much less need for escape.
Stress also causes a lowering of the ability to fight off problems. When stressed, our immune response is impaired so that illnesses of all sorts can develop. Removing this inner stress can free up the body’s ability to repair itself and maintain health.

Treatment for stress using The Boulderstone Technique

So how does it work? If you stand next to a person who is agitated or angry, you may feel something of their disturbance in yourself. You may also feel something if you stand next to a very calm person. Somehow you can mirror their state. The closer you get to the person the more you can feel. This is not a one-way street; the mentally disturbed person and the calm person can feel things that are going on in you. If you remain calm while they are experiencing chaos they can be aware of that calm, especially when it is pointed out.
A Boulderstone Technique practitioner can help locate your inner stress using a specially developed kinaesthetic sense. He or she will hold your head as you lie relaxed and fully clothed on the treatment table. The practitioner stays calm and centred and you can sense this calmness through their hands. You will be encouraged to think of something that would normally be a problem for you but before it becomes too difficult you will be brought back to calmness. This technique is repeated as many times as is necessary until all the inner tension is released in a gentle but thorough way. This brings you into the present moment, which of course is stress-free because the problem has come from a past event.
In the transition of coming back to calmness from the stressful state a new pathway is automatically created in your brain from the problem to peace. This new pathway is automatically accessible the next time you get into a stressful state. You do not have to think of anything as the calm is already there.
Most problems can be sorted out very quickly.

Who can benefit?

Anyone with mild to severe anxiety, depression, panic attacks, PTSD and burnout can be greatly helped using this technique. We regularly help people leading stressful lives or in particularly stressful occupations such as doctors, nurses, teachers, social workers and armed service and emergency service personnel. Getting on top of everyday stress can avoid burnout later on.

Fear of Death

When someone close to you dies it is natural to grieve over a period of weeks or months, going through the various feelings of denial, anger and sadness. Sometimes grief gets stuck because it hasn’t been allowed to process fully and a person may need help in releasing it. We have helped many people through the grieving process.
One consequence of bereavement can be that someone gets a bit fixated on their own mortality, realising that they too could die at any time. They may obsess about their health, worried they will develop the same cancer or heart condition as the parent who died. They are facing their own fear of death and it can be a paralysing fear. We regularly treat people for this with good results.
Fear of death can also be the outcome of other forms of trauma such as nearly dying in an accident, operation or in battle. You may experience this fear directly or it may be hidden under obsessive thoughts you have invented to distract from the underlying fear of death. For example, a woman who had survived a nasty road accident as a child developed a phobia of cars parked outside her house.
When people are free of the fear of death it is an extraordinary liberation, allowing people to live fuller and happier lives.

Processing Fears

It is natural for children to be a bit nervous of the dark. They can’t see what is there and can imagine monsters and all sorts. They need to learn to process their fears and move on. If they do get stuck with a distressing fear, we can help. They only have to mention the monsters under the bed or how it feels when mummy turns the light out for us to be able to feel the energy of the fear that they feel. We gently guide them through it and help them process the fear until it has completely cleared. No more monsters under the bed!

For example, one mother brought her four-year-old along as he was too frightened to go to bed on his own and was having nightmares. After two sessions she reported that he now goes to bed on his own without any fuss or fear and the nightmares have stopped.
Adults with fear of the dark or fear of going to sleep can also be helped.

Stress and Trauma

When you understand how stress and trauma are stored in the body, and how it is released, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can become a thing of the past – in moments. Until that time everything you do will make slow progress. Indeed, you may not make any progress at all.

If you talk about the problem, take medication or try CBT without understanding how stress and trauma are stored any work done on them will be a bit like fiddling while Rome burns.

Stress and trauma are stored in the body not in the mind or thought processes. We know this because we have removed it, using our technique, from hundreds of people. We have used our technique on ourselves and many others.

The Boulderstone Technique removes PTSD by getting the patient to feel a small bit of their trauma (not to talk about it but actually feel it) and we grab that bit before it squirms away. By holding this small bit of trauma, which is not overwhelming to the patient, we can get it processed and transform it into peace.

By grabbing just a small piece of the trauma makes it so much easier to transform. ALL major traumas can be broken down into smaller pieces as long as you don’t talk about them or give them labels. Holding the small trauma and allowing it to express itself is enough to let it disperse and that is what our technique is all about.

The process is repeated over and over until all the trauma has gone. Usually, this takes less than fifteen minutes regardless of the original severity.

One day all trauma will be dispersed this way because it is quick, efficient and easy.

Food causes IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome)

I see several patients every week with IBS. Those who have seen their GP are generally sent to hospital to see an expensive consultant and get expensive tests:  endoscopies, colonoscopies and so on, to rule out any pathology. In the majority of cases nothing is found to be wrong.

There is much talk in the media about NHS overspending. One area where the amount spent could be reduced drastically is that of gut problems, especially IBS.

IBS is a diagnosis given to people with any of the following symptoms: bloating, abdominal pain, loose stools, diarrhoea and/or constipation. This is because most cases of IBS are caused by food.

Doctors have been known to laugh at this suggestion, or at best they suggest the patient keeps a food diary. However, it is hard to see a direct relationship between symptoms and foods that are being consumed daily, such as cow’s milk and wheat. Cow’s milk protein is by far the most common cause of IBS, with wheat coming second, especially when constipation is a feature.

It makes common sense that the food we eat might directly affect the gut. People often know that they feel bloated and sleepy after eating wheat or that they get an attack of diarrhoea after eating cream.

Surely it would make sense, and save the NHS money, to carry out a simple and cheap test to see if food is causing a person’s IBS? If they stop eating that food and the symptoms disappear (which they usually do within a few days) then there would be no need to go on to do expensive tests, leaving those for people who really need them.

If you want to check if dairy or wheat are causing you a problem it does not hurt to cut them out of your diet for a week or two and see if there is an improvement. You do have to avoid them completely though, reading all the ingredients on things to make sure it is not creeping into your diet anywhere.

Various allergy and food intolerance tests are available at your own expense. I would not advise blood tests that only look for gluten allergy or lactose intolerance as they tend to miss the far more common problems with wheat and cow’s milk protein.

It is possible to remove depression, anxiety and stress without changing any external circumstances?

It is possible to remove depression, anxiety and stress without changing any external circumstances?

When you ask a person experiencing depression how they know they are depressed they often say they have symptoms such as feelings of hopelessness, or loss of interest in life, or anger, or loss of energy, or any of the hundreds of other symptoms. But those symptoms are the RESULTS of the depression something is there before those symptoms manifest.

Knowing what tells you that you are depressed requires insight because working it out requires you to go behind the results of depression and see how you recognise the depressed state. Not everyone can do it but people who can say they can actually feel their depression in their chest, or in their head, or in their stomach as a PHYSICAL sensation or tension.

Here at the Boulderstone Technique we have labelled this physical sensation as Micro-Physical Tension or MPT for short. We have also discovered that if the MPT is removed so is the sense of being depressed.

We have found a way to remove the MPT through a physical exercise – unique to each person – that we can teach to people so they have a way of sorting out their own depression, without resorting to pills.

Even if you can’t feel your own MPT, we are trained to and so your situation is rarely an obstacle to recovery. Because you don’t have to talk about the problem, long standing issues are not an obstacle, even if you can not remember the events but know there was a problem.

Removing MPT’s totally changes the way you feel. You do not need to change any external circumstances to feel better.

If you have problems with DEPRESSION, ANXIETY and STRESS the Boulderstone Technique may be an answer for you.